Let’s be honest, most of us have our wedding planned up way before we even get the ring ;)! Between Pinterest and just being a big girl at heart I know I had plenty of boards and pins ready to go! But wait… take a minute and do some real research. It’s easy to get overwhelmed when the real planning begins – there are a lot of decisions to be made but they don’t all have to be made overnight. If you’re not careful, this can lead to rushed and careless choices that you might regret later. Read reviews, ask friends and make phone calls. As they say, “fail to plan, plan to fail.” Prioritize what is most important to your wedding day and give that vendor majority of your budget. This means meeting with that vendor and asking plenty of well thought out questions that were written down in advance. This could be the difference between a photographer who is passionate about their job and your distant family member who just purchased a point-and-shoot and may not be exactly what you are really looking for.
And remember: Do not compare your wedding day to any others that you have been to, or especially the one you saw on Pinterest. Your wedding won’t be like everyone else’s because they’re not you. It is YOUR day. That is what makes it special.
Do you have a wedding day checklist with all the steps that should be done 6 months, 3 months and so forth before your wedding day? I know I did! If you are anything like me you LOVE crossing things off a to-do list. Well, that’s great but when it comes to your vendors you need to stay in communication with them. It is tempting to write a check and cross that off your list but it is crucial that everyone is on the same page. You want to trust that they are able to meet and deliver their product or service in the time span that is allowed for them. It is a good idea to give every vendor a copy of your final timeline and ensure that everyone is on time and aware of his or her responsibilities. It is really difficult to get back on schedule once things get behind. The vendors that I recommend meeting with include your photographer, videographer, DJ, wedding coordinator and caterer. I also suggest you pay any final balances in full before your wedding day. It is best to have everything handled so you don’t have to worry about money on your special day. All you need to do is make sweet memories!
I’ll be the first to admit I skipped this step, a big oops! If you can’t afford to hire a wedding planner for your entire wedding from start to finish at least hire a day of coordinator! You will be so glad you did. Having someone that is in charge of everything, keeps everyone on schedule and rushes to the scene at a time of crisis is some of the best money you can spend! The best part, you probably won’t even know a crisis happened! On my wedding day I had tons of people asking me questions and it was really hard for me to relax. If I would’ve hired a wedding coordinator, all of those questions would’ve went straight to her! Trust me, you want to find someone to be in charge of everything the day of – someone you can trust to get the job done.
Like any bride, you probably have a pretty high standard of how your wedding day should run, and that’s totally acceptable! In order for your day to run smoothly I suggest DELEGATING any and every little thing possible and do not try to take everything on yourself. It is crucial to delegate individual tasks for other people to be in charge of. Hiring a wedding coordinator can take care of this problem as mentioned above but if you are one of those brides who do not use a coordinator, please do not rely solely on yourself to get the job done. Ask your Maid of Honor to be in charge of something. Assign the Best Man with the task of holding the rings all day. Have your sister grab you a bite to eat. Don’t be afraid to ask for help! I promise everyone in your bridal party and your family will want to help you. Knowing that certain tasks have been assigned and will be handled will left a weight off your shoulder!
Most of all ENJOY your wedding day!! When things do go wrong, laugh it off and count it as a memory you didn’t plan to make ;)! Don’t expect for everything to be perfect because you are setting yourself up for disappointment. I like to say that everything will be perfectly imperfect!
Above all, remember that your wedding day is about marrying your best friend and being joined together in marriage! Your wedding day is a celebration of two becoming one in front of God and all those close to you. From this day forward you will be married and a reflection of God’s love for the church. That’s what it is all about!!